Nothing changes until Mindset changes

 These incidents happened a few months ago.

Incident-1:

It was a invitation to a puberty ceremony. The host and invited guest know each ther for 10 years and it is just a formal contact.

One of the guest women reached the stage to greet the girl. She was abruptly stopped by the host woman, calling another couple to the stage to greet her girl. This woman cannot understand anything. After 2-3 women greeted, this woman was allowed to greet the girl. This woman has her family. But why was she denied the right to perform rituals first? It's because her daughter is not married still.

The couple whom the host invited first, hadn't seen even their own grandchildren for years. Will their blessings not affect the host's girl?

Earlier restrictions were done to widows, 

• then it passed on to divorcees, 
• then to single mother, 
• then to single woman after marriage, 
• then to single woman whose marriage is delayed. 

Now, it is passed on to the mother of the single woman.

What is the common human mind expecting?

A woman should be married, living with her spouse, having children, having grand children etc. Only then she is eligible to stand in any function. 

SHAME ON YOU if you have the same mindset of the host!

Better don't invite someone with whose life you are not comfortable with!

Incident-2:

Many old couples celebrate their 60th birthday cum anniversary (60th birthday of Male spouse) in grand manner. 

• Some don't have their children nearby. 
• Some don't have a formal talk with their children.
• Some are never visited by their children.

Two couples met in a function. Couple A celebrated this ceremony 2 years ago. Couple B had to celebrate it in the coming year.

One common relative was asking the woman of Couple B where she has planned to celebrate the ceremony. Suddenly, woman of Couple A interfered stating that they (Couple B) are not supposed to celebrate this ceremony because couples who have got their children married are alone eligibile for that celebration.

Oh, then what is the first eligbility for such ceremony?

Children should actually perform this ceremony as a tribute to their parents. 

Is that happening everywhere?

Couple A were not even invited for their own son's marriage by their son. 

When Couple A, who are not even in contact with their son, can celebrate this ceremony, why can't couple B who live with their children celebrate?

This ceremony is a general celebration in the recent years. But as per tradition, it is the ceremony performed by a particular community of people.

It is not wrong to share such ceremonies for happiness like diwali, ramzan and christmas.

But follow the rules exactly makkale!

When you have tailored the rules as per need, don't advocate the rule system to others!

On the whole, people are not worried whether they are living a happy life or not. All they need is an acknowledgement from the society that they are living a happy life.

Yarukaga vazhareenga? 

I remember 2 dialogues:

1. Thirudanaai paarthu thirundha vittaal thiruttai ozhikka mudiyathu!
2. Ungala elam thiruthavae mudiyathu!